The Newsletter
Most people think that sexuality is fixed — that it's genetic and predetermined — and who you're attracted to is just a function of being 'born that way'.
However, that's where most people would be wrong.
In my experience, sexuality is fluid. It's nuanced. And it's better conceptualized as a spectrum.
If sexuality isn't binary, is it possible to move along the spectrum? If so, how? These questions are neither popular nor easily answered. But they're questions that have bothered me for some time.
Culturally, we're sort of shuffled into two buckets: embrace the idea that 'love is love' OR try to 'pray the gay away'. I’m not really satisfied with either option. Maybe some of you feel the same.
But, perhaps there's a third option?
That's really where this newsletter comes in. When labels don’t do justice, my hope is that together we can talk about sexuality in a genuine way while respecting each other's thoughts, values, and experiences — a space for honest conversation without judgment or pressure.
The Author
I'm just a guy that sometimes finds himself attracted to other guys. I'm at the age now where most of my friends are having kids. That's something I've always wanted for myself too — a wife and kids. But for the most part, that's always felt impossible.
How can I simultaneously honor my feelings and my values? How can I have a traditional family when I’m not even sure I like girls? I certainly didn’t choose to feel this way.
I’d like to believe that I’m not a victim of my own circumstances — that I can influence my trajectory. Chart my own course.
In this newsletter, I’ll share with you my journey and what I’ve learned so far.
The Crew
Come be part of a community of independent thinkers who have the courage to be intellectually and emotionally honest with themselves.
I post each week, Wednesdays at 3PM Pacific. You can expect original thinking and experiences to help you feel connected as you discover your own path.
Also know that my journey will probably be different than yours. And that’s ok. While this isn't the most comfortable topic, it might be the most emotionally charged one. So let’s be kind to one another and discuss the art of being straight.
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Disclaimer: This newsletter is not a substitute for professional mental health care — although I believe it can provide something therapy cannot: being connected with others in the same boat. The views expressed in this newsletter are my own and are not reflective of medical or psychological advice.
